31+ What Not To Say To Foster Parents. We didn't ask to be put in foster care. Foster children have been ripped from their homes and everyday lives to be placed in the care of strangers. However, foster parents have to protect the child and are not able to share about their past, including what brought them to foster care, or any details about their biological family. So while the statements/questions from curious. Typically, we are paying the price. The process is difficult for all involved, as it takes time for a foster child to. Curious people typically do not see that from our perspective, we are the lucky ones as adoptive/foster parents. From their perspective, we rescued an unwanted child. This information if often overheard by the children and can cause them to feel more conflicted about who they are and where they came from. Don't call a child a foster child.
